Friends are people with whom you can be yourself, and they still love you. Some friends are only in your life for a brief period of time, but every now and then, God places those special people in our lives who are there for life. Time, circumstances, and distance may limit contact, but when you reconnect it’s not awkward at all. You just pick right back up, as if time didn’t exist.
Yesterday, two friends who’s lives had taken very different paths, reconnected. One, chose to go to college, joined a sorority, is about to graduate and get married. The other chose to quit high school, get their GED, and struggles with drug addiction, and life in general.
I could understand, even though its not right to judge anyone, how the one friend could judge the other. It’s difficult for anyone to understand why people make the choices they make. Especially when it’s a sin they don’t personally struggle with. That’s not what happened with these two friends.
When a person struggles with drug addictions, they don’t feel like they deserve good friends. They tend to avoid those they classify as ‘good’. As a result, they have very few friendships that weather the storms.
Yesterday, I witnessed God at work, when the sorority girl reached out to her struggling friend. She didn’t judge him. She didn’t lecture him. She simply loved on him. That my friends, is true friendship. That is a perfect example of the love of Christ.
They had only been around each other a few times briefly in the last few years, but I was told that it wasn’t at all awkward. She spoke words of wisdom to him, spent time with him and loved on him with a maturity way beyond her years. As a result, last night we received a phone call from our prodigal son!
While I was still on the phone with Tuck, Sarah called to tell me what had happened. As I was talking with her, it was in that moment I realized that this child, who’s diapers I had once changed, a child I had watched grow up, is not a child any longer, she’s a grown woman. Also in that moment, I realized that things had changed. She had now become my friend. A friend who heard a mother’s heart breaking, and realized the need of a friend.
Last night, when I got off the phone with Sarah I wept tears of joy. God is so good! He’s always at work!
I’m so thankful there are people who have the hearts to love people who might be difficult to love. I’m thankful for the young woman Sarah has grown up to be. I’m thankful for Sarah’s parents, Steve and Sophia, who have been great friends. I’m thankful for Tuck’s other friends, Olivia B., Sara S., Dakota A., and Jake R., who have stuck by him and helped me. And whether Tuck realizes, or appreciates it now, one day he will. Hopefully, they’ll all still be around when his life is back on the right track!
The older I get, the more I value my friendships. I’ve realized how important it is to have those people in my life. Especially those who have loved me at my worst! Thank You Lord for friendship!
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10