They Don’t Call It ‘Tough’ Love For Nothin’

I’ve written about the struggles with our son. He’s in the clutches of addiction, and in a tough place in his life. Loving an addict isn’t the easiest thing in the world. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never stopped loving our son, it’s loving him the right way that I struggle with. They don’t call it ‘tough love’ for nothin’!

As a mom, I want to coddle my baby. I want to give him the things he needs. That’s what moms do. However, if your baby happens to be an addict, you can’t always do that. Lots of times, if you give them what they need, they just take it and use it to feed their addiction. They’ll sell it, trade it, do without lights or water or food for another fix.

Praise The Lord! Tuck is safe and sound in jail at the moment. You know someone’s bad off when you’re praising The Lord that they are in jail. We told him last time he was there, that we were done! No more paying for jailhouse phone calls. No more money. No more bringing him underwear even. Let me tell you, ignoring those phone calls have been the hardest thing we’ve ever had to do! Especially when he calls a gazillion times a day! My heart breaks for him. The truth is, my heart is broken period! That being said, there’s also peace in my broken heart, knowing that God’s got this! He’s promised me healing for Tuck, and I’m standing on His promises!

I am comforted by things like, hearing Troy Walker preach. He was in prison for four years, and now pastors a church! I’m comforted by those people God has placed in my life who have been in Tuck’s shoes, but now live for The Lord. I’m comforted by the support of friends and family, and that includes my church family. I know those people are lifting me up in prayer, otherwise I couldn’t be walking this walk in confidence. Not self confidence mind you, but GODfidence!

Not many people’s lives are not affected by addiction, in some form or another, whether it be themselves or a friend or family member. It’s an epidemic, and addiction is no respecter of persons. It could happen to anyone! Be very careful if you’re judging these people! As Christians, we are to love, and to reach out to these ‘hard to love’ people. As long as a person is breathing, there’s still hope! If someone you love, or if you’re caught in the clutches of addiction, find people who will support and pray for you! Either way, you can’t walk the walk alone.

I started thinking yesterday. If it feels this bad for me, wanting so badly to fix this problem for our son; but knowing I have to step back and let him walk his own walk. How badly do we break God’s heart when we walk in sin? He loves us more than anyone could. How often do we break His heart? Ouch! I don’t know about you, but that one stung me a bit.

I don’t want to break God’s heart, and I want to love the hard to love. I want to love like Jesus. We can do it! We can love without enabling! It’s possible through Christ!

Some of you were sick because you’d lived a bad life, your bodies feeling the effects of your sin; You couldn’t stand the sight of food, so miserable you thought you’d be better off dead.
Then you called out to God in your desperate condition; he got you out in the nick of time. He spoke the word that healed you, that pulled you back from the brink of death. So thank God for his marvelous love, for his miracle mercy to the children he loves; Offer thanksgiving sacrifices, tell the world what he’s done—sing it out! Psalms 107: 17-22

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