I have two friends who have sons with Asperger’s Syndrome, a form of autism. I love both Brandon and Josh, and one of the main reasons is because of their pure, unfiltered honesty.
If you want to know if something looks good on you, ask one of them! Trying out a new hairstyle and not sure if it suits you? They’ll be glad to answer that for you! Curious about your parenting skills? Mention your kid being in trouble in front of these guys! They’ll tell you things others are thinking, but don’t dare say.
Like, one day Brandon asked me how Tucker was doing. I told him he had gotten in trouble for something, and Brandon was laughing. I said, “Yeah, Tucker’s a handful that’s for sure!” Brandon replied, “what does that say about your parenting skills?” And before I could retaliate, he was gone!
How about the time I took Josh with me to get my tattoo. An older gentleman came in inquiring about a tattoo. Like Josh always does when anyone new enters the room, he struck up a conversation with the man. Then I overheard Josh say, “I’m surprised an old man like you would want to get a tattoo.” Needless to say, the look on the ‘old’ man’s face was priceless.
I, personally, think it’s hilarious. Their parents, on the other hand, are often holding their breath, and praying they won’t offend anyone. I say, their words open the door for lots of self examination, which is a good thing. Everyone needs to evaluate themselves from time to time, right?
Like I said, often times, they just blurt out what the rest of us are thinking, but no matter if our thoughts become words, or we keep them to ourselves; God knows our hearts. I wonder how many times a day our Heavenly Father is watching me thinking “I sure hope she doesn’t say what she’s thinking.” or, “I wish she hadn’t said that.” I wonder if He ever thinks, “I gave her a filter, but I think it needs a good cleaning!” I wonder how many times a day I make Him cringe? More than I care to admit I’m sure!
Sin, often begins with a thought. It’s up to us to take those thoughts captive and not allow our emotions or feelings to take over. We have the power, through Christ, to do that! And unlike Brandon and Josh, most of us have a filter, and we need to use it! Our words are powerful. We can speak life or death, blessings or curses.
I believe God gives extra helpings of grace to people like my friends’ sons, and so should we! Not just with people like them, but with every person we deal with. You have no idea what someone is going through to cause them to act the way they’re acting. Grace. It’s what’s for dinner!
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5
The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Proverbs 18:21