I remember one time when I was little, I snuck a peek at one of my Christmas presents. For whatever reason, I just HAD to see what was in that box. Once the gift was opened, the excitement was gone, and the guilt of doing something I knew I shouldn’t have, started to eat at me; so, I told my mom.
That year, Christmas just wasn’t the same for me. Even though I only opened one gift, that was one gift’s worth of excitement I had missed out on. Plus, opening that cool gift, before I was supposed to, made me compare every other gift to that one, and some of them didn’t measure up.
Young people, and single people, I want you to listen up. And, just in case you’re wondering, “single” includes those of you who are dating or living with someone. You are still NOT married!
Having sex before marriage is like sneaking a peek at your Christmas presents. That’s because sex is a gift that’s meant to be opened after you’re married. When you open the gift before its time, the relationship is never the same, because with sex comes an emotional attachment, and not just for women! Sex is emotional for men too. Most of the time, the relationship doesn’t work out, and you move on to someone else; and with each passing partner, a little bit of the excitement is gone. And just like a child peeking at their present, and ruining the excitement of Christmas, you’ve ruined the excitement of saving yourself for marriage.
People can say what they want, but God never intended for us to have sex outside marriage. TV shows make it look exciting. Singers sing about it, and their videos portray it as something perverted. People talk about sex nonchalantly, as if it’s nothing, as if partners are disposable. I suppose, in a lot of ways, they are these days; but every time you have sex with someone, you’re giving them a part of yourself you can never get back.
Not to worry! If you’ve made mistakes, it’s never too late to decide to take the road of purity! Once you tell God you’re sorry, He sees you as pure and spotless, and His opinion of you is the only one that matters! Period!
If you want to have great sex when you’re married, then WAIT! Take it from someone who’s had to live with the baggage of their past. Do things in the order God intended. It will be well worth it, trust me! A lifetime of great sex, with one partner, is way better than good sex with many, and there’s no guilt or shame! Plus if your mate is your only partner, you KNOW it’ll be good because you have no one else to compare them to!
Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready. Song of Solomon 2:7
But if you do…
But God is faithful and fair. If we admit that we have sinned, he will forgive us our sins. He will forgive every wrong thing we have done. He will make us pure. 1 John 1:9