I have a friend named Olivia who’s nineteen years old. I realize that I’m old enough to be her mom, but I consider myself fairly hip, and up to date. Wait. Did I just use the word ‘hip’? That probably doesn’t help when one is trying to keep up with the younger generation. What I meant to say was, I consider myself to be one who stays current and relevant to society. Yeah, that’s the ticket! (Those of you close to my age will understand that last reference)
Yesterday, Olivia used a term I hadn’t heard before. She said, “I just got off work so I look ratchet.” I wasn’t exactly sure what she meant by that, being that I thought a ratchet was a type of tool, so I just replied “girl please!” To which she responded “LOL”. I wasn’t sure if she was laughing AT me or with me. I thought that surely she must mean ‘wretched’. I was trying to come up with a way to tell her she was saying the word totally wrong.
This morning I googled the phrase ‘girl you look ratchet’ and sure enough, it’s a term the young folks now use to describe someone who’s not so easy on the eyes. Wow, I’ve, apparently, been out of the loop for awhile! I guess I’ll need to start studying the urban dictionary if I’m going to communicate with young people!
For whatever reason, God’s blessed me by placing several young ladies in my life. They’re each very different, and yet they’re very much alike. Each of them, in their own ways, are trying to discover who they are. I, being a parent, want so badly to scoop each of them up and coddle them. I want to place them on the right path and make sure they do everything right, but I know that’s not the way it works. All of us have to figure out things in our own way, in our own time.
I think my job (which I gladly, and thankfully accept) is to give them advice when asked, to listen to them, to love them unconditionally, and to live a life that’s pleasing to God, so that they see Him and not me. Not that there’s any pressure or anything!
Like I’ve said before, aging ain’t easy, but it’s inevitable; and with age comes responsibilities. One of those being, to guide the young. To share our wisdom with those who don’t yet have the experience we do. To nurture and be a good example for those poor, ignorant, naive creatures we call young adults.
I’m thankful for Olivia, Jennifer, and Sara. They’re like the daughters I never had. Hopefully I can share my experiences with them and keep them from making some of the mistakes I made. All I have to do now is read my bible and the urban dictionary!
In the same way, teach the older women to lead a holy life. They must not tell lies about others. They must not let wine control them. Instead, they must teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children. The younger women must control themselves. They must be pure. They must take good care of their homes. They must be kind. They must follow the lead of their husbands. Then no one will be able to speak evil things against God’s word. Titus 2:3-5