As a parent, I think it’s equally wise to have a savings account set aside for our children for therapy sessions as it is a college fund. We are going to screw something up!
You show me a perfect parent and I’ll show you how to do calculus. For those of you who know me, you know that’s impossible!
I remember when Tucker was little, he’d always want to give his things away. We’d never let him because we had paid good money for those things, or we’d tell him he’d regret it and want to play with it later. Oh, if we’d realized that the value of fanning the flames of his spiritual gifts was far greater than the value of any other “thing” he could possibly possess. Instead, we basically told him that having stuff was more important than people. It was natural for him to be generous, and we squashed that. Ugh! When I think about that it makes me sick!
We weren’t purposely trying to be bad parents, we just lacked wisdom, and true wisdom only comes from The Lord. You can be educated all day long. You can read every self help book on the market, but an education does not a wise person make.
I used to wonder why wisdom was wasted on old people. I mean, it seems like you need it so much more when you’re younger! God showed me that wisdom can be attained at any age. All you have to do is ask! When I was younger, I wasn’t even thinking about what God wanted for me; let alone what He wanted for anyone else.
The smartest thing you can teach your child is that they can trust God. Teach them to talk to Him. Not “now I lay me down to sleep” kind of talking. Teach them to have real conversations with Him. Teach them that when people, even their parents, fail them that God never fails! Teach them that they too can be wise! Then show them how to gain wisdom. Be an example. Read your bible. Pray. And let them see you doing so. Teach them that God’s mercies are new every morning and that making mistakes doesn’t equal failure, it equals a lesson learned.
Parents, you’re going to mess up. Don’t beat yourselves up over it. Just start anew and don’t be afraid to admit that you messed up. Saying “I’m sorry” to your kid isn’t the worst thing you could say! It’s just not fun 🙂
Train a child in the way HE should go.
(Not the way you want him to go) When he is old, he will not turn away from it. Proverbs 22:6 emphasis mine*
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1:5