If you’re married, then you’ll understand what I’m about to say. There are certain things your spouse does that grates on your nerves, and there always will be.
For instance, your husband may leave his dirty underwear in the bathroom floor, when the clothes hamper is, but a mere. few steps away. Or, maybe they wait until you’re half asleep to start “pawing” at you, then get offended when you’re not in the mood; even though they had already been asleep on the couch for an hour! What the heck?!
Maybe they hoard coffee cups in their truck, then bring twenty in at one time. Maybe they get mad if you try to warm your cold feet on their toasty, warm legs. I mean, these are just some random examples I pulled out of the air. Don’t think for one minute I’m suggesting these things happen at MY house, but I’m sure you get the point.
If you live with another person, you’re going to eventually see, hear, and smell every little thing they do. That doesn’t mean you don’t love them! Not at all! What it means is that God is teaching you lessons in mercy and grace! He’s showing you what it’s like for Him to have to deal with us.
I’m sure, just like in a marriage, there’s always one spouse who requires more grace; God has some children who require way more grace and mercy than others. I’m so glad that He loves those people as much as He does the rest of us! And I’m glad that opposites attract, and that there’s always one of us, in a marriage, who’s able to overlook faults and graciously love unconditionally. God is SO good!
If you don’t believe that God’s grace is sufficient, just ask me! If you don’t believe God can restore a broken marriage (or any relationship for that matter) just ask me! If you don’t believe that marriage is, and always will be hard work, just ask me! If you don’t believe that there’s always one spouse who requires more grace and mercy than the other, just ask Steve!! 🙂
I will say this: because these experiences I had were so tremendous, God was afraid I might be puffed up by them; so I was given a physical condition which has been a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to hurt and bother me and prick my pride. Three different times I begged God to make me well again.
Each time he said, “No. But I am with you; that is all you need. My power shows up best in weak people.” Now I am glad to boast about how weak I am; I am glad to be a living demonstration of Christ’s power, instead of showing off my own power and abilities. Since I know it is all for Christ’s good, I am quite happy about “the thorn,” and about insults and hardships, persecutions and difficulties; for when I am weak, then I am strong—the less I have, the more I depend on him. 2 Corinthians 12:7-10