I’m very blessed to be married to a man who compliments me. He often tells me I’m pretty, or that I look cute. If I complain about something concerning my looks, he tells me that I look fine, and that I’m beautiful to him.
I’ll say this though, he’s honest! If I ask him if a particular outfit makes me look fatter, he tells me the truth. I’m thankful for that too! I don’t want to walk around in something that looks awful. Let’s face it, things just don’t look the same after forty as they did in our twenties. Or at least in my case they don’t! I’m certainly glad that Steve loves The Lord more than he does me, and that love is blind, because honey, I definitely need him to see me through spiritual eyes! Especially when I’m naked! I’m also glad that we’re able to laugh at the fact that neither of us look like we once did.
I’m not one to fish for compliments, like I said, I don’t have to, but one night, I was feeling particularly fat. Anyone know what I mean? Sometimes you just have those days when you feel fatter than normal. Anyway, Steve, Tuck and I were leaving church Wednesday night, and I sighed and made a remark about having gotten fat. I got no response. I could tell Steve was deep in thought, so a few minutes later, I made another remark. Still nothing. Finally Tuck piped up and said, “Dang dad! Can’t you see? She’s fishing for a compliment!”
I sat up straighter, bracing myself for the barrage of compliments I was about to receive. I was beginning to wonder if he’d even heard what Tucker had said, because he just sat there for what seemed like forever! Just when I thought I was getting nothing, Steve says, “I LOVE fat people!”
Some of you are probably thinking that I slapped him, or that he slept on the couch that night. A few years ago, he probably would have, but there’s something about being over forty that allows you to be more free, and a lot less paranoid. I seriously cracked UP! That was the funniest thing Steve had said all day! After I cracked up, Steve and Tuck apparently thought it was safe to laugh, so we laughed all the way home!
Steve knows that I find stuff like that hilarious! We’re secure enough in our relationship that jokes like that are not only ok, they’re necessary! However, he might need to be careful when joking with my friends.
My friend Tina was complaining that she looked like a buffalo in some pictures. Naturally, I told her she looked pretty, and she did. Steve said, “Tina, you don’t look like a buffalo!” I thought to myself, “How sweet! He’s trying to make her feel better!” Then he finished his sentence….”Well, not quite a buffalo. Maybe just a bison.”
I’m glad we were the only ones around, otherwise Steve might’ve been flogged! Tina and I, on the other hand, busted a gut!!! We thought it was hysterical! However, I reminded Steve that not all ladies (well, hardly any actually) are like us, they would NOT find that stuff funny.
Word to the wise. If you need a compliment, and feel like going fishing for one; you might want to visit a pond other than Steve’s. I’m just saying!
I’m thankful that I have people in my life who love me for who I am, not how I look. I’m thankful that my people see folks through spiritual eyes and not worldly ones. I’m blessed to be surrounded by people who love like that!
So we do not give up. Our physical body is becoming older and weaker, but our spirit inside us is made new every day. 2 Corinthians 4:16