I used to be the world’s worst to jump into relationships. I’m referring to friendships, not romantic relationships. I connect with people easily, and I love BIG! Once I love you, as far as I’m concerned, you’re my friend forever.
Not everyone shares my concept. On more than one occasion, I’ve been burned. I’ve had to learn the hard way that just because you get along well with someone doesn’t mean you’re instant besties. Most of the time, it’s impossible to know someone, I mean REALLY know someone, in an few days, or hours. I’ve learned to ask God for discernment where my friendships are concerned, and He’s sweetly granted my request.
For people with my personality type, this is a tough concept to practice. I love people! I want everyone to get along, and I don’t want anyone being alone; even those who want to be alone! About the only time I am mean is when you hurt someone I love. Do that, and you’d better look out! I will lovingly rip you a new one, and back it up with scripture! I have, and will always have, the backs of those I love!
Unfortunately, because I love hard, I also let go hard. I can, and will, forgive people of anything, but when I’m done, I’m done! Forgiving doesn’t mean putting up with being mistreated. Friendships go both ways. I’ve lived long enough to know that I can’t please everyone, and not everyone is going to like me. And I’m totally ok with that! If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s not the quantity of friends, it’s the quality!
I don’t think this concept is as easy for younger people, or anyone for that matter, if they’re not spiritually mature. With spiritual maturity comes wisdom, and with wisdom comes freedom to be who Christ intended you to be, which could, and usually means, losing a friend or two.
Our son, Tucker, has been having some transition issues. I don’t completely understand. That would be impossible, because I’ve never walked in his shoes. I assume that, coming out of the situation he’s been in, trying to find new friends would be difficult. I would also assume that there’d be friends from your past that would be hesitant to hang around you because, often times, people tend to remember the wrong you’ve done, and not who you were before. I can imagine it could feel pretty lonely, and that having to prove yourself to people would get old rather quickly.
I’m asking for prayer warriors to pray that Tucker listens to his instincts, and to God when choosing friends. Pray that even if Tucker doesn’t listen, that God would protect him, and gently persuade him TO listen. Pray that God places people in Tuck’s path who will be good influences, and remove those who aren’t. Pray that Tucker realizes who he is in Christ and that he doesn’t have to stoop to other’s levels to be accepted. Pray that Tucker realizes that “church people” and living for God are not boring! Pray that he realizes living for God is the best, most exciting life ever, and that God has mercy on him until he realizes these things.
God is faithful and good! He’s placed good, godly friends in my life, and I’m praying expectantly for Him to do that for our son! Thank you for your prayers!
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 1 Corinthians 15:33