Men. They’re complicated creatures to say the least. They’re visually driven (meaning, their easily distracted by shiny objects, or boobies), their ears don’t work that well (meaning, they hear what they WANT to hear. Selective hearing), and they love the thrill of the chase.
God created men to be hunters and gatherers. They love to hunt down prey, to watch patiently for their “trophy” to walk by. If he waits too long, he’ll do something to attract his prey. Once he sees what he wants, he goes for it! Once he’s gotten what he wants, he goes home. That right there, ladies, is reason enough NOT to have sex with a man before marriage.
Ever wonder why men are really sweet in the beginning, then after you have sex with him something changes? That’s because the thrill of the chase is over! Once he’s gotten what he wanted, he’s off to “bag” another trophy. UNLESS, you do things in the order God intended.
I’m not saying that if you wait until you’re married to have sex, that you’ll never have problems. I’m only saying that when things are done the way God intended, in His timing, and His order, you value them so much more.
Sex is a precious gift. It’s not something to be given away just because you THINK you love someone, or because it feels good, or to use as a tool of manipulation. It’s meant to be cherished and shared by married people who’ve made a commitment.
Guys and gals, don’t sell yourselves short. Guys, treat your girls like they’re something valuable. Treat them as if they’re worth the wait. A precious jewel. A fine piece of china. Don’t selfishly guilt them into giving away something so sacred.
Girls, don’t tease guys by dressing in ways that cause guys to gawk. Don’t use sex as a means to get what you want. Your body is beautiful. It is not meant to be seen by anyone and everyone. Dress modestly so that when you DO give yourself to the one you marry, he won’t look at you like he has every other woman on the face of the earth. He’ll cherish what he has, because he’s waited. He’ll cherish YOU, because he’ll know that you valued yourself enough not to let everyone else see and have what he’s getting. Trust me. You’ll have a lot less stress and problems in your marriage! It’s hard enough work doing things God’s way! Why add more pressure.
If you’ve already made a mistake. Don’t worry! Our God heals and restores! Just stop what you’re doing, and do the next right thing! Girls, treasure what God’s given you, so that whomever you give yourself to will treasure you just as much!
Sex before marriage doesn’t make you closer! It causes fighting, jealousy, and anger, just like any other sin!! SAVE YOURSELVES THE TROUBLE! ⬇️ see verse below!
But when you follow your own wrong inclinations, your lives will produce these evil results: impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure, idolatry, spiritism (that is, encouraging the activity of demons), hatred and fighting, jealousy and anger, constant effort to get the best for yourself, complaints and criticisms, the feeling that everyone else is wrong except those in your own little group Galatians 5:19-20