Yesterday, a friend spoke life and encouragement to me, concerning a very sensitive issue. I would call her by name, but she’s so humble that I wouldn’t want to embarrass her. She’s the type of person who doesn’t desire the attention of others. She’s also the friend that, if anything, wise comes forth from her mouth, then I know it has to be straight from God! And who am I kidding? If I don’t mention her name, she’ll just share the blog on Facebook and tag herself in the post, declaring that she’s the best, cutest, most wise friend anyone could ever ask for! It was Tina!!
All kidding aside, if you’ve ever been through infertility, you know the agonizing pain. And until you’re holding that baby you’ve dreamed of in your arms, every month it’s as if you experience a death. For some, that dream comes true. For others, such as myself, it doesn’t. I’ve often said that losing our daughter Averie was easier than infertility; at least there’s closure in death. There’s no closure to infertility until you either have a baby, go through menopause, or have a hysterectomy.
Just for those of you who don’t know, I’ll explain. Yes, I have my son Tucker. We had a daughter, Averie, who passed away when she was a month old. I had my tubes tied in the delivery room at 22 years old. At age 36, I had them untied and started trying for a baby. I won’t bore you with the details, but just know that, for me, it seemed like some horrible form of self mutilation. Some people cut themselves. I chose to try to have a baby at 36.
Anyway, we were discussing this, how people say and do dumb things that really hurt your feelings, yada, yada, yada. And Tina said she knew now why she’d had to go through all that. It was to be able to offer people hope, because God had blessed her with two babies. One adopted, one biologically. I told her that, unfortunately, I couldn’t offer anyone hope in this situation. She was quick to set me straight!
She reminded me of everything God has done, and is doing in my life. She reminded me of doors God has opened up for me. She said nice things about me that, unlike she would, I’ll not repeat. She reminded me that I very well could offer hope! Hope that, should the answer to your prayer be “no”, God has a plan! That even though we may not understand the hows and whys, God knows, and He ALWAYS knows, does, and allows what’s best for us, and that everything will be ok! Not just ok, but great! And I can tell you, things are great! God has allowed me to experience and learn so much! He’s opened doors for me that I’d never dreamed possible! And He’s still opening them! Living for God is not boring! It’s one of the wildest rides you’ll ever take!
I’m thankful for the friends God has placed in my life who speak truth and life to me. There are several, but none as cute, wise, and humble as Tina Robbins. At least, that’s what she tells me. 🙂 I think some may beg to differ!
All praise to the God and Father of our Master, Jesus the Messiah! Father of all mercy! God of all healing counsel! He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us. We have plenty of hard times that come from following the Messiah, but no more so than the good times of his healing comfort—we get a full measure of that, too. 2 Corinthians 1 3-5