I remember, in the early years of our marriage, I used to have a pretty bad temper. What it actually boiled down to was that I was a control freak! I guess I thought, that if you got married, your spouse would automatically just do your bidding. Boy was I ever wrong! And let me tell you, when my bidding was left undone, the wrath of Christa was unleashed!
You see, I’m just naturally a loud person. My voice carries really well, it’s just perfect for the stage! So, as you can imagine, back in the day, when I’d get mad, my voice would go up a few decibels. I remember Steve used to say “You always catch more flies with honey than vinegar!” Boy, that would really help diffuse a situation in a hurry! NOT! Stupid sayings like that one might’ve caused me to hit a person upside the head with a bottle of vinegar! I can guarantee you, a person, lying dead in the back yard, would draw way more flies than honey any day!! Oh my goodness! Please excuse me. I just had a flashback. Seriously. Forget that last sentence!
That was back then. Now? I’m way more calm. I don’t yell anymore at all! (Unless it’s really called for) I’m pretty sure, this past weekend, I passed the ultimate test!
Sunday, after church, I’d went to Walmart with my friend Jen. We had went a couple of weeks ago for her to get paint for her new baby’s room. Well, the lady messed up mixing the paint. I won’t bore you with all the details, but I can assure you, I wasn’t leaving there until they had righted their wrong. Finally, after about twenty minutes of explaining to several different types of managers, (Way too many chiefs and not enough Indians I assure you!) they were able to, albeit reluctantly, see things my way! Na-na-na-boo-boo! 🙂 They had just better be glad that I’d tagged along and they weren’t having to deal with a young, hormonal, pregnant woman!! Talk about the unleashing of wrath! Hell hath no fury like a hormonal, pregnant woman scorned. Or something like that.
Yesterday, I was telling (bragging to) my friend Tina about the Walmart incident. I was telling her about how calm I’d remained. I mean, I was earning a jewel in my crown for sure, for being such a great example, of handling conflict in a godly manner, to young Jen. Or at least I was earning a jewel. “Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen (or heard) by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 6:1. Ugh.
Anyway, Tina was reiterating to me, the fact that “you do indeed catch more flies with honey than vinegar”, then she said, “BUT, sometimes anger is necessary!” It was weird! It’s like, in an instant, her whole demeanor changed! She said that sometimes, you just have to “go all “Old Testament” on a person so that they know you’re serious. I must admit, by this point, I’d gotten a little scared. She ended her rant with, “Actually, sometimes you catch more flies with 💩doo-doo than honey.” Yikes😁! Bless her heart. God’s still working on her 😞. Oh come on. I’m just joking! That “crap” was hilarious!!!
Seriously, if facing a conflict of any nature, it’s always better to, first off say a prayer, take a deep breath, then, do our best to behave in a Christ-like manner. I don’t think Jesus would really want us turning over any tables at Walmart; especially over paint! Not to mention, you never know who might be watching you! Well, besides Jesus of course, and He already knows what we’re going to do. The neighbor we haven’t met yet, however, does not! IJS. Let’s be good examples in our communities!
Slowness to anger makes for deep understanding; a quick-tempered person stockpiles stupidity. Proverbs 14:29