Have any of you, with children in their 20’s, ever tried telling them what to do? It’s dang near impossible! They typically do the opposite of whatever you tell them. I guess there may be some children who are, and have always been, very compliant but probably not many. They’re trying to live their own lives, and don’t want a guardian anymore.
For parents, it’s tough! We’re used to being able to control them. Letting go is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I can tell you that it’s forced me to rely on God more than anything! I guess that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
As an adult, a few years ago, I found myself in a situation that lead me to better understand how a young adult must feel. When there’s too many rules placed on anyone, it’s natural to want to run! I mean, I’m generally a rule follower, and the “authority issues” I had when I was younger have been dealt with. However, if someone tries to do the Holy Spirit’s job in my life, I’m OUT !
Let me explain. I spent a good ten years of my adult life trying to get the approval of man. I wanted to be SO good. I wanted to do exactly what God wanted me to do, but I got blindsided, and put way too much trust in earthly leaders. I didn’t really know any better. Here’s the deal. There will always be people to help us along the way; but if ever there comes a time when you know God’s telling you to do certain things, and those people tell you otherwise, or hinder you? My advice is to RUN LIKE A SCALDED DOG! God does, and will, speak to you just like He does everyone else! All you need do is listen!
Here’s an example. There were people telling me that I couldn’t have a drink of alcohol. Personally, I do not think it’s a sin to have a drink, if you’re able to do so, without it becoming a problem. (I know that’s a whole other debate of it’s own, and that’s NOT what this is about.) I found myself rebelling against those people. How childish is that? I was going to have a drink, if it hair lipped the pope! I wasn’t getting drunk, or going out to clubs, but that was between me and the Holy Spirit! Here’s what happened. When I was out from under those rules, I have no desire to have a drink!
You see, all those “laws” did was cause me to rebel. I didn’t need those rules. What I needed was for someone to trust me, and to trust God to do His job! And that’s exactly how we have to treat our adult children! As long as we are praying for them, God’s got it! Yes, they’re going to make mistakes! Some, way more than others! The thing is, they know they’re making them! We need not beat them up about it! Let the Holy Spirit do His job! He’s way better at it than any human!
Now the way of faith has come, and we no longer live under a guardian. Galatians 3:25