Is it way too much to ask that, when a woman’s upset, a man could just hold her and comfort her? I don’t mean just some random man, mind you, I’m speaking specifically of husbands.
It seems that, often times when a woman becomes emotional, a man either takes it personally, or assumes that she either must be PMSing, or on her period. WHAT THE HECK?? A little comforting would go a long way! However, I think husbands are horrible at hugging. You may be asking you’re self why I think husbands are horrible at hugging. Well, here’s why.
Most of the time if a husband gives his wife a hug, and it lasts longer than the “church, good to see you” hug, he always wants more! The shoulder rub turns into a back rub. The back rub turns into a butt rub. Then the next thing you know, he’s headed straight for your “lady lumps”, and you’ve went from thinking you had the greatest husband in the world to thinking he’s the biggest jerk in the world, in a matter of seconds! Unless of course you are on your period! If husbands know ahead of time, that their chance of getting lucky doesn’t exist, they’re better able to mentally prepare themselves for a longer hug.
So, the next time you’re upset and your husband assumes that you’re hormonal or on your period, tell him “Yes! I’m flowing like the Nile river! Now hold me dang it!” After you’ve gotten the proper consolation, you can tell him the truth!
Ok, so I’m (sort of) joking. You should never lie to your spouse! Not even if they’re behaving like a hormonal high schooler. You should always “understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ.” Ephesians 5:22. Men, here’s some advice for you – when your wife is upset, HUG HER! Listen to her. And I mean really listen. Keep quiet, nod your head in agreement, and hug! Don’t rub, you know you can’t handle that! And above all else, “husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.” Ephesians 5:25
I’m marriage, “lucky” isn’t always the goal. Sometimes you have to take those thoughts captive. I’m just sayin’.