Ever had your patience worn as thin as Calista Flockhart? For those of you who may not know, she’s the actress who played Ally McBeal, and she is, or at least she was, ridiculously skinny. A fetus shouldn’t even be that skinny! Anyway, back to my patience being worn thin.
We all have good days and bad days, but when a person with a TBI has a bad day; everyone does too! Tuesday night Tucker cooked the yummiest dinner ever! Pineapple-teriyaki chicken wrapped in bacon, three cheese scalloped potatoes, green beans, and cheesy, garlic biscuits. It was SO good! Cooking it, however, wasn’t all that much fun for me! He didn’t want me leaving his side, just to make sure he was doing everything right, but I dare not touch anything! He’d have a dang come apart. That’s when the nerve thinning began, and yesterday afternoon just topped it all off! Now, I have no nerves!
I’ve heard several people, with loved ones who’ve had a TBI, say that during the healing process, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives even, left that person because it was too much to deal with. I can certainly understand why. The mood swings, the paranoia, the accusations, the angry outbursts, followed by them acting as if nothing ever happened, and expecting the other person to feel the same way, is tough! I don’t care who you are, that’s dang near impossible! Shoot! There’s been times I’ve even wanted to run away, and I love him more than anyone! And don’t think, for one minute that I haven’t been the victim of his rage! But alas, I’m here for the duration, even though, at times, I’d like to wring his neck! I think, in a situation like this, even Billy Graham would want to strangle Tucker!
I’d say, while a person is healing from a brain injury, they find out who their real friends are; and that goes for the whole family, not just the wounded person. I guess the same goes for families of, and people who are autistic, or have PTSD, a mental illness, addictions, or any other difficult situation. People, myself included, (or at least I’ve certainly been guilty in the past) are not very patient or understanding with those people. It definitely makes me wonder how many people I’ve treated badly who we’re acting in ways they might not be able to help.
Don’t get me wrong, none of those situations are an excuse to treat people badly. Every person is responsible (so much as they are able) for their own actions, and that includes Tucker! However, those of us who love him, will dole out the grace, in extra big helpings, until he’s completely better. Geez, I don’t recall ever praying for patience! What the heck?!
If any of y’all are praying for us, and I know y’all are, and we greatly appreciate them all. However, whichever one of you is praying for patience, would you please stop! OMGosh! What the heck are you trying to do to me?! Now, I’m going to my prayer closet and see if I get get God to see things my way! 🙂
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12