Always being worried about hurting a persons’s feelings isn’t always protecting them. Treating a person as if they’d spontaneously combust, if you upset them, isn’t doing them any favors. Loving a person doesn’t mean tiptoeing around them or putting them in a bubble where nothing or no one will ever harm them. Love NEVER means that tempers won’t flare or that emotions won’t get out of hand. Love, in any form, whether it be friendship, family or romantic is NEVER without pain, and it ALWAYS takes work!
The more accurate scenario would be that, often times, love means having to make someone mad in the here and now, so that they don’t resent you for something years down the road. Sometimes love means that you have to tell someone the truth…..even if it hurts. Every once in a while love means having to use foul language to get your point across. Ok, maybe that’s just MY excuse to use bad words :-). Love could mean that you may need to throat punch a person to get their attention. Ok, again, maybe that’s just me needing a good excuse to throat punch a joker. Seriously, there are times when love means having to break ties in order to stop enabling a person’s bad choices. Love is rarely ever always easy. Not if you plan on loving a person more than a few months anyway! Love certainly does not mean never having to say you’re sorry! I have to (or at least I should) say “I’m sorry” to the people I love the most than anyone else! Love is a beautiful, yet extremely complicated, sometimes downright annoying thing that, try as one might, no one can live without!
Every person created has the desire to love and to be loved. The thing is, there’s not a person on the face of the earth who’s love will ever be able to meet the desires of our hearts. No one! The only way that anyone’s love, even between a mother and her child, can ever remotely be satisfying is when the person, who’s trying to love, does so out of the overflow of Jesus’ love, and through the Holy Spirit living inside them. If a person doesn’t know Jesus, and understand the love of Christ, as much as is humanly possible, it’s IMpossible to properly love another human being. And that my friends is a fact!
We are not capable, when left to our own devices, of loving people the right way. As humans, we’re way too conditional. That’s why, until Jesus is enough, there’s not a man, woman, or child that can fill the void in a person’s heart. A heart that was created to worship and love Jesus!
Until Jesus is enough we’ll always think that, surely we could find a better husband or wife, because if you’re expecting your spouse to keep you happy?!? You’re in serious trouble! Until Jesus is enough, our kids will never meet our standards, because we’ll compare them to everyone else instead of raising them to be who God created them to be. Unless Jesus is enough nothing this world could ever give us will ever be enough! We have to reach a point in our lives where, if we were to lose everything and everyone, we’d know that, although we may be sad, Jesus is all we need! Our lives need to revolve around the things of God. Like the old hymn says “Turn your eyes upon Jesus, Look full in His wonderful face, And the things of earth will grow strangely dim, In the light of His glory and grace.” Now, let’s do our best to love! Even when love means doing the difficult things!
My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. 1 John 4:7-8