If This Blog Offends You, You’re Probably Guilty! 👍

Yesterday’s blog was hilarious! Well, I’m not so sure it was all that hilarious to the person responsible for the poot. Someone is nervous as a cat pooping peach seeds on a hot tin roof thinking, “I hope no one ever finds out it was me!” I’m just sayin’. Anyway, the blog sparked an interesting conversation, which I’m about to share with y’all. Last names have been withheld to respect the privacy of the not-so innocent. If any of you know someone by the name of Chris, who poots loudly, owns a bulldog, and has a wife named Heather, I’m sure it’s purely  coincidental. 🙉🙈🙊

Stuff’s about to get real up in here! Ladies, how many times do we automatically assume that we’re smarter than our husbands? How many times do we try and override something he says or does? Do we try to overstep his authority when he’s disciplining the kids? What about belittling his ideas, or trying to make him feel stupid? How often are we disrespectful? How often do we gather with the girls to have a man bashing session? This next one’s a big no no! How often do we put the children’s needs over his? And this one’s going to sting! How often do we withhold sex, or use sex to try and manipulate our husbands? If you’re married, is your man the king of the castle?! If not, he should be!

I hear so many women say “I wish my husband was the leader in our family.” What I find interesting is, that comment is most always followed by, “But he’s not, so I have to step up and do it myself.” The truth is, so often, we just won’t get out of his way! We’re so afraid that he won’t handle things right, or we think that we can handle things better, so we step up and do before he even has a chance!

Ladies, God designed us to be lead, and He designed men to lead us. Let’s allow them to do what God created them to do! If your husband is not saved, or truly doesn’t know how to lead, then you should do what’s right anyway!! Pray for him. Support him. Even when he makes mistakes. And above all…RESPECT him! Yes, even when you think he doesn’t deserve it! (I’m not saying to ever put up with abuse, or to put your children in harm’s way. That’s never cool.)

And men, you should never abuse the authority God has given you! You’re not to treat us like slaves or prostitutes! You’re to love us like Jesus does, and to protect us at all cost! You should cherish us and consider us your most prized possession! And you should really man up and claim your poots! Blaming them on the baby or the dog is so not cool! Actually, those type things really do not help us to think y’all are smarter. IJS

It’s no wonder people don’t have a clue what’s right. First off, there’s a lack of the studying of God’s Word. Plus, if you watch just about any TV show, nearly all of them that have married couples, make the husband look like an idiot. Not to mention the lack of married couples! Living together is not the same thing as being married! Marriage is a big, serious deal y’all! It’s a covenant between God and man. Men, it’s time to step it up! Ladies, it’s time to stand down!

And this is just a little extra something I’m throwing in for free. People, for the love! Let’s stop coddling our boys!!!! Stop dressing them in frilly, monogrammed, girly-looking clothes. Let them get dirty and let them get hurt! Allow them to take risks and live a little dangerously! They’re boys for cryin’ out loud! Now, if you happen to have a boy who’s not into “rough and tough” there’s nothing wrong with that! However, he’s still a boy! Allow him to take risks, and get dirty and hurt in his own way! One day these boys will be men and they’ll be the ones taking care of our girls! I don’t know about y’all, but if I’d want my daughter to marry someone who I knew could take care of her in all ways!

In the same way, you wives should yield to your husbands. Then, if some husbands do not obey God’s teaching, they will be persuaded to believe without anyone’s saying a word to them. They will be persuaded by the way their wives live. Your husbands will see the pure lives you live with your respect for God. 1 Peter 3:1-2


3 thoughts on “If This Blog Offends You, You’re Probably Guilty! 👍”

  1. I can agree to some points but not all. I was raised in church but we were taught that the husband & wife should share their joys & problems & agree on a solution. This is still my belief after 32 years of marriage. I know what the Bible says but the problem with that passage is too many people take it the wrong way. They love to twist it to mean what they want it to mean. Even teens that hear this think of it as my wife will have to obey me in everything I say & do. “I am the almighty King👑of my household. “Is that what we want our sons & husbands to do to us? Have to obey their every command & make all our decisions?! I don’t think so. God gave me a brain & it has more sense than a lot of men I know. God is the only one I answer completely to. My husband & I discuss our problems, where we are going to lunch, on vacation, & & all important financial needs. (Side story: Mama Hayes married at 16. JC was a good Christian man but never learned how to handle money well. After a few years of living with in-laws she decided she was going to have to put her foot down & start handling the money. They traded farms 4 times at least before she said No More Moving. By the time they would get a place decent he would want to move again. Their last home was about a 150 acre farm in Blount Co. They raised cotton. The house wasn’t much but they added onto it 4 or 5 times. JC became very sick with heart trouble & died in 1960. If Mama Hayes had not kept everything going & had the property, she wouldn’t have had anything for her kids to live on or in. She was one of the most Godly women I have ever known & she taught me most of what I know. She taught me how to take care of myself & to take care of BUSSINESS matters because not every person is capable. Even some of her own kids had it hard. A couple turned out like their Dad. There is a lot more to this story but it will have to wait.) Just remember, not everyone is a born leader & not everyone is a financial wizard. And marriages can work very well if decisions are discussed together.


    1. I definitely agree that a husband and wife should talk about EVERYTHING! And they should definitely make all decisions together. Nonetheless, the man of the house should have the final say, should they not agree.
      The truth is, regardless of how people misuse that verse, the fact of the matter is YES! The man should be the king of his castle! And YES! I would want my sons to be the king of their castles! The important thing that every king should know is that a GOOD king NEVER abuses his power! He leads his “subjects” with care, to better his kingdom!
      The sad thing is, when a woman marries a man who chooses not to lead their family, according to God’s word, the wife is still to be submissive to them! But there’s nothing wrong, if the woman takes care of a family’s finances, or if she speaks out when the husband’s doing wrong. However, what the bible says is true no matter what the situation in a marriage may be.
      And no matter how much smarter we THINK we are, or how much smarter we may actually BE than any man, STILL God didn’t create us to be over any man. He created us to be led.
      Thankfully God DOES give (some) women brains and plenty of good sense, and any smart man will allow a smart woman to help make him better! A great piece of advice to give young single women……make dang sure you marry someone you TRUST to lead you! Because a marriage is NEVER what God intended it to be when we step out of our proper places.


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