First off, HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my only (living) child! My son in whom I am well pleased! God is doing a work in him like you wouldn’t believe!!! Tucker turned 25 yesterday, and his party was a smash hit! As always, there were a lot of people in attendance. At first I thought someone must’ve posted his party on Facebook, or secretly sent out invitations, then I remembered it was visitation day at rehab! Y’all, there was a lot of cake consumed! Red velvet, and yellow cake with butter cream icing. Before icing both cakes, I poked holes in them and filled them with sweetened condensed milk! A little trick I learned from my mom. You could put sweetened condensed milk on a dog turd and it would taste good! Due to he dumbing down of America, I feel I need to add a disclaimer: “No actual dog turds were consumed in the taste testing of said sweetened condensed milk. For safety and health reasons, do not try sweetened condensed milk on a dog turd. Although, considering what is allowed to be put in our foods, a dog turd, dried in the sun might be healthier.” Ok, back to what I was talking about. We not only celebrated Tucker’s birthday, we celebrated Jason and Josh’s birthdays as well! Jason is one of Tucker’s BFFs at The Foundry, and y’all know Josh, Tucker’s friend from school.
So, after the celebration, we were sitting around talking and laughing. Let me say this before I go on. Tucker and Jason both have experienced a break up while in rehab. It would be so easy for both of these guys to say forget this, and walk away! Especially Jason, who has kids to worry about, but what a blessing to see those guys happy, and in good spirits, even though their circumstances are not ideal. That’s God at work my friends! And although we’ve all seen significant change in both guys, God still has plenty to do! As He does in all of us, as long as we’re living! None of us are any better than any of those guys in rehab! Even though there is a significant age difference between Jason and Tucker, they seem to be kindred spirits. I prayed, and still do, that God will surround Tucker with people wh are seeking the Lord and He has been faithful! Both guys have a good sense of humor and joke around frequently. Such was the case yesterday. Like I was saying, topic the conversation was women. Steve had asked about the location of the women’s facility, and Josh asked if they were ever around them. (Most likely he was trying to see if HE could go where they were! Josh loves the ladies!) They explained that they weren’t allowed to speak to them at all! There’s no fraternizing with the women allowed! I was trying to explain to Josh why that was a bad idea. There were some jokes cracked I’m sure. Some of the conversation is foggy now. I do remember the conversation started because Tucker was bragging about a 68 year old lady flirting with him at the thrift store. Of course we all had a field day with that one. Jason explained that being in there, and being sequestered from the opposite sex lowered your standards. He went on to say that when they saw women, all they saw was, and I quote, “Vagina, vagina, vagina.” To which Tucker added, and I quote, “Yeah, or tits, tits, tits.” To which Lajuana added, and I, yet again, quote, “Uh huh, and that’s why y’all are still here! You’re not quite ready yet!” Let me tell y’all, we laughed at that one! Now, keep in mind, they were [halfway] joking around, but they couldn’t have made a more true, unfortunate statement!
Because of the society we live in, and how women are objectified, that’s how most men see women! Porn is made so easily accessible, that it seems half the men in America have a porn addiction. My gosh, most of the stuff we see on TV now would’ve been considered pornography 20 years ago! We’ve just been so gradually exposed, we look over things. Half the bathing suits I see women wearing, out in public, leave so little to the imagination they may as well be naked. (Just for the record ladies, your exposed bodies should be reserved for your husband’s eyes only! And good, bad, or indifferent, men are looking at you and imagining all sorts of things! And yes people! They’re even gawking at your teenage, and even young daughters! Cover your precious bodies!) It’s no wonder women are seen as objects in today’s society. But here’s what I want my son, and all the men I love and care about to know. Those women you’re looking at, and possibly thinking nasty things about?! They’re someone’s daughter! And guess who their daddy is?!? They are DAUGHTERS OF THE MOST HIGH GOD! THE KING OF KINGS! THE LORD OF LORDS! They were created to be cherished and taken care of, not to be used! I don’t care how they’re behaving, or how they’re dressed, it’s not an excuse! And check this out, one day you’re going to have to answer to their Daddy!!!
So if you’re a single male, who wants to be married one day, and you desire to enjoy ‘tits and vagina’??? If you truly want to enjoy those things and be satisfied, my suggestion to you is to ask God to help you see JESUS when you look at HIS daughters! Because here’s the deal! Until that’s how you see women, you’re never going to be satisfied sexually! You’ll always want more than any woman will be able to give you! And for the love! Don’t have sex with anyone you’re not married to, and only marry people of the opposite sex! And don’t say you behave that way because you’re male, or that it’s in you DNA! I will lose my religion, and call bull CRAP in two seconds flat! That’s NO excuse! It’s in everyone’s DNA to sin! We are all born into sin, but that’s no excuse to keep sinning!
Look, I want y’all to know that I’m not putting down Tucker or Jason. They’re newly seeking the Lord, and the Holy Spirit will take care of all the details! It’s a process with everyone! When I think back about how I used to think about certain subjects, I shudder! And God is still having to correct my thinking! God is also a God of many chances, and His mercies are new every morning! For those of you who may be judging Tucker or Jason for their comments…I urge you to take a good look at yourself! Don’t judge anyone for saying what most people are thinking! And whatever you do, don’t make me aware of it if you are! I’ll rip you a new one quicker than you ever imagined! And I’ll do it in the name of Jesus! But anyway, men, don’t keep looking at women inappropriately! Being a man isn’t an excuse! God did not create you to think bad of, or use women! Be guarded and be an example, to other men, when it comes to treating women properly! And listen to me! Even the things you do in “private” eventually will reflect in your actions! And even those secret things will have an effect on those around you! There are no real secrets!
And so I insist—and God backs me up on this—that there be no going along with the crowd, the empty-headed, mindless crowd. They’ve refused for so long to deal with God that they’ve lost touch not only with God but with reality itself. They can’t think straight anymore. Feeling no pain, they let themselves go in sexual obsession, addicted to every sort of perversion. But that’s no life for you. You learned Christ! My assumption is that you have paid careful attention to him, been well instructed in the truth precisely as we have it in Jesus. Since, then, we do not have the excuse of ignorance, everything—and I do mean everything—connected with that old way of life has to go. It’s rotten through and through. Get rid of it! And then take on an entirely new way of life—a God-fashioned life, a life renewed from the inside and working itself into your conduct as God accurately reproduces his character in you. Ephesians 4:17-24 The Message