Most of you know that Tucker, our boy, came home for a visit this weekend. I have to say, it was the best visit ever! I can’t tell y’all how proud I am of this man! And I don’t use the word man loosely! He’s a man! A man who reads God’s Word. A man who prays. And a man who puts what he’s learning into action! What more could a mother and father, or anyone else for that matter, ask for?!
If you’ve read my blog for any amount of time, then you’ve followed the heartbreaking road we’ve traveled with our son. It’s been a road filled with drug addiction, jail, prison, a near death experience with a traumatic brain injury, and so much more! I can’t sit here and tell y’all that, in all those years, I always handled myself in a godly manner, or that I never had a breakdown, or that I never doubted God and His goodness. If I said that i’d be lying through my teeth. But here’s the truth. In all those years, even during my breakdowns, God always reminded me of what He had promised me! He was always faithful to remind me that Tucker was His, and that He loved him way more than I could ever love him! When I would really be struggling, God would never let me forget the vision He’d given us about Tucker; that one day we would see Tucker doing what He had planned (long before Tucker was even born) for him to do! And even though I would be sad sometimes, I planted my feet firmly on God’s promises and I did everything within my power (with God) to stand proud and tall!
I see so many people, who are going through this with a loved one, and there seems to be so much shame attached to addiction. I think part of that is because people who’ve never walked down that road, either themselves or with a loved one, are so judgemental! And no one wants to be judged, or for anyone to think badly of someone they love. I know. I’ve been there! Look moms and dads, wives, brothers, sisters, grandparents, aunts, uncles…anyone who is dealing with loved one who struggles with addiction. Don’t you dare worry about anyone judging you or your loved one!!!
*How many religious A-holes does it take to change a light bulb? NONE. They can’t change a light bulb! Because none of them will admit that anything in their lives NEEDS changing!*
If your son or daughter is in and out of jail, or goes to prison, and you hear someone badmouthing them, you hold your head high, look them directly in the eyes and say, “At least they have addiction as an excuse for being a not so upstanding citizen, what excuse do you have for being an ass?” No! Don’t really do that! Pray for that person! Plus, you hold your head high, with confidence, knowing that God has a plan, and that addiction, jail, or even prison isn’t the end! It’s never the end (as far as having hope for God to change a person) until someone dies or Jesus returns! Look, the people I know, who have been to prison, my son included, are WAY better people than half of the ones I know, who’ve never even been to the county jail! I’ll go so far as to say this…I know police officers and preachers who aren’t half the people that some of these so called addicts and criminals are! Not that God doesn’t have a plan for them too! I’m just sayin’.
Lots, maybe even most, of the wonderful, upstanding, Christian people I know? God has delivered those people from lives riddled with addictions and various other sins! I’d much rather be in a crowd of those people, the ones who know they’d be nowhere without Jesus, than in a crowd full of religious A-holes! Y’all feel me? Y’all know what the difference is between those people and religious A-holes? Those people have admitted they’re screwed up! WE ALL ARE!
So those of you who have a loved one struggling with addiction, or any other sin that seems to be judged more harshly than others, such as homosexuality for example? Hang in there! And those of you who may have a loved one who is judgemental of those people, and thinks that just because they don’t struggle in that area, that it somehow makes them better? Y’all hang in there too! God even has a plan for them as well! He loves them all equally! We are all sinners saved by grace! No person is worse than the other! Some people are just easier to deal with!
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, Romans 3:23